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The social codes of being a bridesmaid or groomsmen can sometimes be confusing. To help you navigate the often murky waters, here are some of the most commonly asked questions.

WHO SHOULD BE THE FIRST TO KNOW ABOUT THE ENGAGEMENT?

Avoid broadcasting the news (photos included) to social networks before sharing your engagement with family and friends. If you have any children from a previous marriage, they should be told first. Parents, family members, godparents, and anyone you are particularly close with should also be told before the news is public knowledge and before you select your wedding party.

I’VE BEEN ASKED TO BE A BRIDESMAID, DO I HAVE TO SAY YES?

No, you are not obligated to accept if asked to be a bridesmaid. While it’s a big honour, it’s also a big ask and brides-to-be should be mindful of that. Even if you want to accept, don’t rush into the decision. Before you commit to the potentially pricey and time-consuming task, there are a couple of things that should first be considered: most importantly, the money and time it will cost you. Ideally, the bride should give you as much information about that as possible right off the bat. You should definitely ask if she doesn’t. Will you be expected to pay for your own dress and accessories? What about wedding day hair and makeup? These are important things to know.

WEDDINGS ARE EXPENSIVE! WHO PAYS FOR WHAT?

‘As a bridesmaid, what am I supposed to pay for?’ is the biggest question. It’s a great starting point if the bride can pay for dresses. If she wants a specific look for hair and makeup, it would be nice if she could also cover the cost of that. If that’s not within the bride’s budget, perhaps accessories and shoes are. The couple should cover more of the wedding party’s costs if it’s a destination wedding; they should foot the bill for their transportation or lodging, if not both. Or at the very least, cover the bridesmaids’ outfits. Because of those added costs, many destination weddings either not having a wedding party or have a smaller one.

EVENTS & GIFT-GIVING

If I am a part of the wedding party, do I have to attend every event? There may be an engagement party, bridal shower, and bachelorette party — but you don’t have to attend them all. Be up front with the bride about which events you’ll be able to make. And if you don’t attend a party, you don’t have to feel compelled to give a gift. It’s best to just pick and choose what fits best in your budget. It is, however, recommend always showing up with something in your hand even if it is as simple as a card filled with well wishes. For those who plan on attending most or all of the events, and want to bring a gift to each one, it is recommends purchasing a gift within the $50-100 range.

HOW DO I BEST DEAL WITH A ‘BRIDEZILLA’?

Some brides will handle the stress of planning a wedding better than others. If you find yourself with a Bridezilla on your hands, try to be gentle. Get together with the other bridesmaids and see who can help take some tasks off her plate. Then go to the bride and offer specific things you can do to ease her workload. This is one of the biggest parties she will ever plan. Hopefully, your friend’s journey to the altar isn’t too tumultuous for you, and you can both enjoy the fruits of your labour when the wedding day finally arrives.

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Five Things To Do As Soon As You Get Engaged

January 9th, 2019

Congratulations! You’re ENGAGED! Whether you have been waiting for what feels like forever or are caught in a whirlwind romance, getting engaged is an incredibly exciting time in any couple’s life. Once the initial excitement wears off, panic may set in as you find yourself saying, “there is so much to do!”. Don’t fret! We’re here to help get you through the first few weeks with the first five things to do once you get engaged.

ENJOY IT!

Enjoy this time together! Spend a few weeks just enjoying being engaged, wrapped up in all the and joy that you are feeling, knowing what it means to be engaged and not stressing out about what needs to get done. Go on romantic dates, dream about the day you’ll say “I Do” and flash your ring finger whenever you have a chance. You’ll only be fiancés for so long, so say it often!

MAKE AN ANNOUNCEMENT

The first thing you’ll want to do is tell everyone you know. We recommend making personal announcements to your immediate family, send out a printed announcement to remaining family and friends or consider posting the happy news online to Facebook and other social media outlets. Everyone will be so happy to hear the news straight from you, so choose whichever method best suits your personal style.

LOOK TO THE FUTURE

You don’t have to set a date just yet, but now is a great time to start thinking about the season you’d like to get married in, which will help determine how much time you have to plan. Knowing the season will start to guide your search for venues, conversations with vendors and your wedding dress hunt. And even if you don’t decide on the date for a few more months, your family will be thrilled to tell her friends that you’ll be tying the knot in the fall of 2019 or spring of 2020!

CONSULT THE BANK ACCOUNT

Before you book any vendors or buy a dress, you’ll need to know how much you’re planning on spending and how your budget will be broken down. Now is the time to figure out if anyone will be contributing to your budget or if the two of you will be paying for the wedding yourselves. Though things will probably change as the months go by, having an idea of how the money will be used will keep you from using your entire budget for a photographer and venue deposits.

HIRE A PLANNER

Planning a wedding isn’t all fun and games for everyone, there is a lot to do to prepare for your big day! With a ton of online resources, like this one from WeddingWire, at your disposal, mastering your to-do list is the first place to start. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, consider hiring a wedding planner. As planners, we can help you with most of the tasks involved in planning your wedding. From vendors, accessories, etiquette and even the smallest of details, as experts, we have the skills and contacts necessary to make your day come together seamlessly!

We look very forward to hearing from you and to start planning your amazing Big Day!

*photos courtesy of: Ruth Eileen Photography, “Summer Engagement”

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2019 Wedding Trends to Watch For

December 20th, 2018

With only a few days left before we sip and cheer in the New Year, we are so excited to be looking forward to the 2019 wedding season. Whether you are well into your wedding planning or just getting started, we are here to help you include some of the hot 2019 trends into your special day. Check out our hot tips and predictions:

Coral Colours & Pink Tones

Pantone has announced it’s colour of 2019 is a bright, sunny, pinky-orange named Living Coral. A cheery tone that’s perfect for Spring and Summer weddings, coral is a fantastic hue to incorporate into a wedding via everything from coral coloured flowers, bridesmaids dresses, cakes, makeup and colour schemes.

Looking for a natural way to bring Coral into your wedding scheme? Look no further than the peony! A timeless wedding flower, peonies have always been a popular bouquet choice, so you can expect to see lots of these in 2019, too. Peonies can be crafted into bouquets that suit any style of wedding, from very formal affairs to rustic garden parties. However, as the peony season begins in April/May and only runs through to late June, their availability is limited. If you have an early summer wedding and your heart set on peonies then you will be able to get your hands on them. But if your wedding is later in the year, then beautiful alternatives include garden roses (for summer), dahlias (for late summer) or ranunculus (for winter and spring).

Simple & Classic Wedding Looks

Minimalists can rejoice because 2019 heralds the return of classic designs and simple styles. The poster girl for this trend is Meghan Markle and her striking yet simple bracelet-sleeved, bateau-necked ceremony gown and halter neck reception dress. For this style, tailoring is key, as is finding the right silhouette to suit your shape. Nail both and you’ll be well on your way to modern princess bride realness.

Brides are going to be embracing a natural look that highlights their favorite features. Hairstyles will be simple too, think half-up-sweeps that frame the face with a few locks and are softly gathered in the back of the head.

Bring the Outside, Inside

Greenery continues to be a classic go-to shade, with flowers and foliage becoming more organic and lush. Trees and lots of foliage throughout floral designs will take centre stage. Florals will be natural, whimsical and romantic. Brides will also include an abundance of greenery in their bridal bouquets. Giant greenery with two to six amazing blooms, such as garden roses, peonies, and protea, are what brides will be carrying into 2019.

Another interpretation of the ‘bringing the outdoors in’ trend, is by using grasses instead of foliage to decorate your wedding. Ideal if you’re attracted to a neutral colour scheme, or wanting an updated bohemian aesthetic, pampas grass appears incredibly romantic when used to decorate arches and aisles.

Long Guest Tables with Layering Details

Our favourite design for a modern tablescape is lots of layering, clean lines, and loads of varying texture. Swapping the round tables and tall centerpieces for long banquet tables with rows of low flowers. Filling out long tablescapes with multiple floral arrangements in a high/low fashion will add depth and dimension at different levels with floral and candles. Guests can see each other, the happy couple can sit in the middle without feeling like they are on display, and it makes for wonderful photos.

One trend that will continue to prevail throughout 2019 is the pull towards refined elegance. A classic, simple, and refined aesthetic will always be in style; go for minimal decor and an airy color palette. An immaculate place setting—free of virtually everything but your charger, menu, and napkin—are both photographically and spatially pleasing.

Grazing Tables & Interactive Bars

Doing away with waiters serving traditional canapés, grazing tables that usually featuring cheese, meats and fruits are presented as a work of art, ensuring your guests never go hungry! What pairs perfectly with a well designed charcuterie spread? An interactive cocktail bar! Couples like to include something interactive for their guests to do and a having a specialty bar, like a tequila tasting or scotch tasting bars are a fun activity. A mixologist onsite can assist guests in choosing different drinks to try and enjoy!

Week Day Weddings

Couples have been adding multiple events to their wedding program including welcome parties, after parties and post-wedding brunches for years, but instead of jamming everything into a three day weekend, more and more couples are turning to alternative days of the week to host their big day. Couples are hosting family and friends all week long and are opting to celebrate, with a full ceremony and wedding, towards the beginning or middle of the week. What do you think of hosting your wedding on a Wednesday?

No matter what you choose to include in your wedding day, we are here to help! Happy planning into 2019! xoxo, KEP

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